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Chin Up, Buttercup

So… The. Unexpected. Happens.

My day takes a different turn. Nothing earth-shattering. Just inconvenient.

After my earlier post this week, I dare not sit in my pity puddle. I am convicted by my stance on whining.

And may I say that I hate it when that happens.

What do I do?

My “younger me” flailed, pouted,  and dare I even say, whined. Shocker.

My circumstances defined my moments. I hate to admit that.

But in this season of my life,  I am greatly encouraged by the fact that my circumstances do not take my God by surprise. I am able to rest in His care in the midst of the  moment far more often than I did in the past. I still have my pity party moments…sometimes…

Again, what do I do?

In this 50ish learning curve, I …

Take a deep breath. Square my  shoulders.

Whisper my prayer… or shout it…depending on where I am…and the circumstance.

Keep moving.

Chin up, Buttercup. 

Flexibility is important. BUT… Prayer is CRUCIAL. My focus shifts when my chin lifts in prayer.

“Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always.” Psalm 105:4

P.S. Need I mention again, my earlier post on whining convicted me. Geez…

Write 31 Days

Day 6 

Feeling Fluffy and Fabulous


The nemesis of my fabulous 50’s has been a wicked set of bathroom scales. They mock me from their corner. They whisper sweet promises of me wearing skinny jeans or leggings with “oh-so-cute tunics and sweaters,” and then…

They. lie. to. my. face.

I hate those scales. I loathe having to weigh. This is probably the emotional residue from my years as a Weight Watcher member and leader.  I still have an overwhelming urge to count points and measure my portions.

I must say  I have reached the point where I refuse to be in  a constant state of anxiety over the digital number giving me the evil eye.  I want to break the condemnation cycle. I need to see my 53 year old body the way God sees me…beautiful…holy…redeemed.

And while spouting that a “number does not define me or my worth,” I know that I need to be active, make healthy food choices,  and take care of my body.

This  healthy-weight, body-image, be -healthy mind set does not come as an either/or issue. It needs to be an “all of the above” game plan.


I want to eat good food.

I don’t want to live on low-carb, low fat, low taste meals, processed diet food for the rest of my life. I want balance. I am willing to give up mediocre, empty-of-pleasure  food for an occasional “fabulous” food splurge. For example, I am perfectly happy to have a protein shake or a bowl of cereal for a meal if I know shrimp tacos or chicken quesadillas are on the horizon for the weekend. (YES!)


If I am a little fluffier in areas than I was in my 30’s and my 40’s … so be it.

Menopause has a sadistic mind.  Aging happens. Energy levels ebb and flow, and insomnia doesn’t play well with others.

A big plus  for this fluffy stage of adulthood is that there are some  very cute “fluffy girl” fashions today.

Honey, I am thankful. So. Thankful.

A cute tee, a great fitting pair of jeans,  and a bold  little sweater or jacket…

And I am ready…

Write 31 Days –

Day 5 – Feeling Fluffy and Fabulous


New Friendships: Fabulous at 50

Write 31 Days: Day 2

New friendships are sweeter after  fifty.


Bear and I discovered this unique truth a couple of years ago when we made the move to a  new church about 30 minutes (25 miles)  from our home.

New church. New community. New friends.

Change  has come into our lives in a season where we have the luxury of a little more time. These new friendships are not based on our children, the parents of children’s friends,  our jobs,  or even people living in close proximity. Our identity is not based on being Justin’s and Josh’s parents. Some of our new friends  are in a similar season of life with regard to grown and independent children, and yet some are aren’t. Being long distance parents and grandparents, we have found younger couples to love, spoil and enjoy. We have found friends who share our faith and values.  Many of our interests run parallel.  Opportunities  for service and care have been a joy! The journey has been quite interesting.

During this season, Bear and I  are not hard pressed   by our children’s activities or our work schedules.  We treasure  this gift of time and the people who are gracing our days. That’s what makes this season of 50 different. We value the beauty of a moment. We value community with friends…new friends.

I wish I could be witty with this post, but this topic is dear to me. It is dear because it reflects answered prayers.  This season, new friends, a new community of faith…all prayers answered by a God who cares  intimately about the details of our lives.

Old friendships are dear, but new friendships are such a wonderful surprise. Step outside your midlife comfort zone and look for community. Be open to the new…

New activities.

New challenges.

New people.


31 Days of Being Fabulous at 50


Moment of transparency…

I am not 50.

I’m in my 50’s…ok, so I’m 53 exactly.

And let me just say I am enjoying my 50’s…well, most of it…

Over the next 31 Days (Write 31 Days), I am going to look at living  my 50’s to the fullest.

Join me on this adventure of being gloriously middle-aged, enjoying it,  and yet  embracing the not-so-glorious moments of aging with grace and humor.

What advice would I give to my “Younger Me?”

What questions would I ask of my “Older Me?”

Let’s explore eating trends, parenting, family, exercise, style, entertainment and faith…All of which are greatly influenced by this season of adulthood.

There is a tremendous amount of grace and mercy that comes with 50, with regard to ourselves and others.

Let’s play with the idea of being bold, bodacious and brave at 50 and what this may look like.

Here’s to an adventurous 31 Days of Being Fabulous at 50…


In my reading  basket for this month…

Listen, Love, Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World by Karen Ehman (Launch Team Member)

Shadow of the Storm (Out From Egypt series) by Connilyn Cossette (Launch Team Member)

Lost in the Middle: MidLife and the Grace of God by Paul David Tripp

31 Days of Fabulous at 50

31 Days of Fabulous at 50

Day 1: Intro to Fabulous at 50

Day 2: New Friendships after 50

Day 3: No Whining Zone

Day 4: Autumnal Bliss

Day 5: Feeling Fluffy and Fabulous

Day 6: Chin Up, Buttercup

Day 7: Worn

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